What to do if your partner is Emotionally unavailable🙃....
Emotional unavailability happens when someone does not have access to their feelings and lack emotional connection to themselves....
For example
When you come down with headache or fever,they go about their daily schedule without asking how you're feeling,or offering to do anything that might soothe your condition. They might even spend less time with you to avoid seeing you ill.
Or probably not care whenever you're down or hurting. Firstly...Think about how you feel in your relationship.. Communication is always the key❗
This should be the first step in any relationship. Ask your partner if he/she feels numb or shut down ,and offer the option to work on it together...
You can tell them you grew up in home in which you expected those that love you to comfort you.
Tell your partner the way they often talk to you feels often like an overreaction.Discuss with him/her how you always feel when they don't care about what hurts you or makes you happy.
Have you ever felt unimportant or undeserving?😔
Does your partner make feel small,perhaps by constantly being on his or her phone even when you're trying to engage with them?🤦🏽♀..do they engage in certain behaviors without being able to explain the reason?🤷🏽♀does he/she withdraw when you begin to expect them to consistently be physically,psychologically and spiritually there for you?💔
If u answer yes to any of this or combo of all..then your partner is emotionally unavailable😲❗
Secondly, Fixing-this requires "Commitment" from the emotional unavailable person..we can't make people change;in order to fix emotionally unavailability, your partner has to want to fix it.
You have to make them want to by not killing them with burden...yes they need their own space too!
Don't be over emotional !
Be yourself many times!
Make use of most most leisures by helping them to expand that feeling through exercises with your partner involving eye gazing,touch,games e.t.c..
Thirdly, Walk away- sometimes loving someone is not enough🙃. No matter how much you throw yourself into a relationship😻,if your partner is not giving you what you need🤹🏽♀-or willing to try😐-you have to remember to take care of yourself first.🤸🏾♀🤸🏾♀
*Walking away is sometimes the hardest decision,but the best one for you.*🤾🏾♀🤾🏽♂
If you have invested your time and presence for several months in this kind of work and they either avoid or sabotage all🤷🏽♀..the message might be they're not yet ready to open up!🤐🤐
Shalom💆🏾♀💜
©Tomiwa_Besty.
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